It is no secret that our soon-to-be-4-year-old came from one of 5 embryos that were donated to us through our fertility specialist. We had exhausted all our options to have another baby and were unable to get or stay pregnant with our own. It was after nearly 3 years of trying to conceive that a wonderful, anonymous couple donated their extra frozen embryos, choosing to donate them to a Christian couple, us. We call it our pre-pregnancy adoption. We live everyday in thankfulness of how miraculously Kevin came into our family!
Weird? Not really. It seems perfectly normal to us now. Though, I will admit there were moments in my pregnancy that I wondered what in the world I was doing having "someone else's" baby. But the moment he was born, the moment I heard his cry and looked into his eyes, I knew this baby boy was OUR SON. Even so, it's not like I can actually forget how he came to us. It's not that I dwell on it or even think about it that much, it's just a part of who he is.
Having Kevin has been a joy ride from the very first moment.
He's such a beautiful soul. And he's a mystery to us. We have no idea what to expect from him. Who will he look like? What personality traits will he have? Why does he suck those particular fingers? Things that make him unique unto himself. And there are always the comments from others about how he doesn't look like the other children, or us. These things that are uniquely Kevin are also the things that remind us of his origins.
Then one day last week, it happened.
I didn't think it could ever happen to me.
I was discussing with my friend, H (whose son, incidentally, came through donor sperm), all our family history of asthma or lack thereof. And Letha's and Izaak's connections with RSV and asthma. I started stating our kids medical histories, those with RSV, those without. Suddenly, my friend stopped me. Um, Karina, you can't include Kevin in that, remember? He has a completely different family history.
Oh yeah! I forgot!!
What a precious moment to savor and cherish. No, I didn't really forget, it's just that Kevin is naturaly a part of our family.